Marriage is Serious

Today I have been working on baking cakes for a wedding cake I have to do for Saturday. This is the first time that I am doing the brides cake and the grooms cake, so I have a lot of work ahead of me. The grooms cake is going to be the emblem of the Red Sox..two socks that touch each other. I didn't think it would be hard, but now I am starting to get nervous about it. Which brings me to my point today...

I spoke with the bride on monday and asked if she was getting excited and she replied that the fact that she will be married on Saturday (less than a week) has not quite set in yet. I was shocked!!! I was so excited the week of my wedding and even now when I watch the video or even think about my wedding I get excited. It was such a happy time and fun, so to hear this bride-to-be say that she wasn't excited hurt my heart for her. I looked on her check only to see two names: hers and a males. So I am assuming that her and her husband to be are living together, which somewhat explains her blahness (not really a word, but it works). This made me even sadder for her.

This encounter with her made it more clear to me that it is important to save oneself for marriage...not just physically, but emotionally and mentally. There is a lot that goes into a marriage. Marriage is not just a wedding day and then you live happily ever after. Don't get me wrong, there are happily ever after stories, but it is only because these couples have worked their bottoms off to keep their marriage a priority. I have only been married for two years and I love being married, but I know that we have not been tested yet. We don't have children and when we do, that will be a whole other level.

I feel that if this young woman has been living with her boyfriend, that they have both taken something out of their marriage that should have been saved. Again, not just physical, but emotional and mental. They will never get that back!!! I pray that they both understand the full responsibility of marriage and are mature enough to handle it.

*I am no marriage expert, these are just my feelings and beliefs.*